Often people make resolutions at the beginning of a new year, and very often we break them. But in particularly for caregivers, it is so important to be able to make permanent resolutions that can help you throughout this year and into the next. It is also important to make resolutions that take into account the changes that your loved one has gone through that perhaps are different than last year, and to reassess not only next January, but every few months to keep you both feeling well and not overwhelmed. Below is a list of ideas for making resolutions that will help you set reasonable and attainable goals for yourself and the one(s) you care for.
- Have you been feeling burnt out? Think about at least one specific, relaxing thing that you can do for yourself on a regular basis. Maybe choose one that can be daily, or one that can be weekly, monthly, etc.
Daily: take breaks! Take a moment to close your eyes, do some stretches, go for a walk, have a cup of tea, listen to your favorite music, or watch your favorite show.
Weekly: have at least one set time to go out and do something by yourself, and for yourself. If you can, have someone stay with the person you’re caring for so you can have some alone time. If cost is an issue, maybe you can develop a trade system where you each do each other a weekly favor.
- Make at least one healthy snack or beverage for yourself every day.
By staying nourished with light and healthy foods, we feel more energetic. Our systems will become more balanced, our sleep will become more regular. Don’t forget to drink plenty of water—staying hydrated is an important way to keep your energy high and your digestion regular.
- Positive affirmations.
Give yourself daily affirmations to remind yourself that you are doing a good job! You are a good person, doing your best. If it helps keep you on track, set a reminder on your phone or calendar to do your affirmation every day at the same time. “I am smart, I am doing a good job.” Or “I am trying my best, I will take time for myself.”
No matter what your resolution, make sure it is not too vague, and that it is something attainable now and throughout the year. Don’t bite off more than you can chew, and remember that you are doing your best. Keep up the good work!